It is crucial to take control of your life to achieve the things you want to achieve. It also proves to the world you are responsible for your actions and a citizen worthy of respect. One of the worst things you could do is act like a victim, which means you are not in control. This means you must hold yourself accountable for any decision you make. If you feel you are in a bad place with people you don’t want to be around, then it is up to you to find a better opportunity. Personally, I have felt like the victim and ended up wasting a good amount of time dwelling on the negatives of my situation. It was not until someone came up to me and told me not to act like the victim, when I really took responsibility for my situation. I was not being promoted and working for a team that was dysfunctional. I ended up taking the steps necessary to move into another team within the organization, which paid more money and gave me a bigger title. In my opinion, this was a smart move and it developed from my actions after realizing I was not a victim.
The overal theme in not being a victim revolves around control. Are you in control? How do you get control? What can you do once you take over control? These are a few questions you should be asking yourself. We cannot sit back and expect someone to tap us on our shoulders and say, “today is the day you are going to get everything you ever wanted.” This simply will not happen and if it does, it would be extremely rare. There are some people who purchase lottery tickets hoping to hit it rich. There are other people like me who do not purchase lottery tickets because they are a waste of time and I pay enough tax. Instead, I put my efforts into generating success through my own efforts. I would recommend everyone to push themselves hard, take accountability, and make sure they are making smart choices. Everyday there are opportunities out there for you and you just need to make sure you are keeping your eyes open to see them. Sometimes opportunities are in places or with people that we would not expect them to be with.
Lastly, taking control of your life also means making sure you are being honest with yourself. You do not want to tell yourself lies to excuse yourself from truly giving your best. This sounds funny, but is a phenomenon that does really exist. As an example, I have been at the gym and told myself that I have worked out enough and should leave. In reality, I was not 100% complete my workout and my brain is telling me to take it easy. Life is not going to take it easy on me, so I better push myself to the limits for a better chance to succeed in life. Think about goals you have and think whether you truly gave your best efforts to hit them in a timely manner. It is important to understand whether you are giving yourself the best chance of succeeding because if you are not, you are simply wasting your time.